Help Your Self

On the diagram above, the centre represents yourself. There are three areas of your life; family, social and work/school (you can add to or re-label them if you wish).
We all have significant people in these areas of our lives some of them we feel close to, others more distant.

Mark how far you feel from each of the significant people in your life. The person you are closest to would be marked close to your circle, others are further out at various distances. Use a square for men and a circle for women. Don’t forget to name each one.

You might like to start with your family. Begin with your immediate family. How close do you feel right now to mother, father, brothers, sisters, sons and daughters. Next add, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, nephews, nieces and others.

Now move on to the social and work areas and map them in a similar way.

When you have finished drawing the map, take a few minutes to look at it.

  • What are your first impressions of your relationship map?
  • How does it make you feel?
  • Does seeing your relationships this way make you want to do something?
  • Where are your supportive relationships?
  • Who would you talk to about personal things?

Supplementary Exercise

Compared with 2 years ago (or a suitable time frame), do you feel closer to or further away from each individual on your map? Draw an arrow next to each person pointing towards you if you feel closer now than some time ago (or draw the arrow pointing away from you if you feel that you are moving apart).

Additional Help

You may like to talk to a trained counsellor about this exercise. If you live in the Sydney to Newcastle area of Australia you can contact Relational Coaching on the number below for an appointment.