What is Relational Coaching?

Relational Coaching is a personal way of helping you build relationships at work, at home and in the world that are healthy, enjoyable and positive.

Coaching is about individual, personalised attention which deals with your situation, helps you clarify your values, lets you identify your goals, builds on your strengths, is unafraid of your weaknesses, increases your motivation and delivers results. We call this your coaching “project.”

At Relational Coaching we believe that relationships are the most important thing in life, yet we largely have to pick up relationship skills as we go. Coaching can give you that boost you need.

Relational System

RICHARD MORRISON Principal of Relational Coaching

My dictionary tells me that a ‘system’ is – a group of interacting, interrelated, or interdependent elements forming a complex whole. It might be possible for a system to be comprised of only two elements, but I doubt if it would be a very beneficial or productive system. In my mind, a system with only two elements is ‘too simple’ to be useful, out of touch with the complexities of our world.

Paradoxically, my initial reaction when it comes to ‘relationships’ is the reverse. I think about my relationship with you, or him, or her in more simplistic terms – as ‘one on one’. For example, when there is tension with the boss, it is the boss that I am angry with… he’s the cause of my angst! I often loose sight of the fact that every ‘one on one’ relationship exists in a large, complex system of relationships. So the concept of ‘one on one’ in relationships is an illusion – even the romantic couple engrossed in each other’s company bring to the table the memory and the influence of a whole host of others.

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You Can “Outsmart Depression”

The “Outsmarting Depression” program helps you overcome depression by understanding the way your thoughts are linked to your mood and by learning practical skills to break free from the cycle of depression.

The three levels of thinking involved –

  • Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) which spring to mind when bad things happen.
  • Conditional Beliefs which usually take the ‘if – then’ form, such as, “If I try harder then I won’t feel so bad!”
  • Core Beliefs; what we think about ourselves at a deep (often hidden) level, eg. “I’m hopeless!”

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